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Sassy dear, we all go through this - or at least, I have too. You have to learn to live with it..compare the standards to which your grandma was brought up, to which your parents, and your aunt were brought up in, and then compare it to yourself. I know, it's totally inadequate, and by no means an excuse. But see how priveliged you are compared to them, se ethe oportunities in your life... And then realise, you grandma didn't have these. SHe was brought up completely differently, and the traditional chinese way is to always push you forwards, never comfort you..make sure you strive to the best.. And this usually ends up in emotions too. We, as people need to be brought up in a completely different way to people of another generation, and sometimes you have to live with the fact that people older than you just don't realise that.

You have to find that somewhere else, a comfort that contrasts with your grandma, and lets you deal with it. It's horrible..frustrating, and annoying..but I suppose be grateful for the fact that it is only simple things like this, which are the horrible times. Talk it over with your grandma maybe, who knows.

And I have to go now..

first of all, i will never talk about my feelings with my family. they havent really taken the time to bother knowing anything about me, and always see me as grumpy. i know their times are much different to ours but thats what they dont understand. there is no point telling us off or whatever cause that would be considered as child abuse. i wouldnt ever think of doing such a thing though. yes i know i am considered lucky but i just feel that i wont be able to face all this pain. i hope time goes by fast cause it seems to go sooo sloww.. confused