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We shared a friend, making it three of us we used to sometimes hang out of work as a group, but after one of the group meet ups, he was trying to ask me if we could hang out just us two without our friend. I would deny the offer.

For the sake of argument, lets call this guy Diego (Joe), and my coworker Lobo (Jorge).

Of the three times we've been out as a group, each time he'd try to latch himself onto me like he was my date. I at first didnt really see it as that because I thought this guy wasn't going to be a weird and was genuinely a friend (my first stupid a** mistake.) I feel that during the second hang out, that must have been when his feelings for me solidified.

I don't remember exactly when the phone call occurred, but after one of the hang outs, he called saying something along the lines of:



In this moment, I was mortified. I thought I had a genuine friend out of this guy, he seemed real cool and dope, didn't think it would lead into something, but clearly that wasn't the case. His heart was in another place.

I tell him that I was flattered that he wanted to know me further, but I had just gotten out of a strenuous long-term relationship. I wasn't looking to date anybody, but I appreciated his motion of trying to court me. I suggested if we could remain friends (and honestly, I only suggested this because I didnt want ol boy wylin out on me.), to which he agreed.

I begin to stop answering the group calls with Diego and Lobo, because Diego continuously left a bad taste in my mouth. If Lobo had to put the call on hold because his girl called, Diego would start saying s**t like "ohh he abandoned us" in a playful tone, but I knew this dude was deadass serious. he would keep talking on it saying "he doesn't let us know that he's leaving, hes been gone for so long" and it gave clingy. Every time he would be on this s**t it pmo so bad. If I had a supervisor call, I hang up, and I call right back, he would be on that s**t. It annoyed me enough to stop answering the calls.

He picked up on this. There were times where Lobo would call me and I would answer (Lobo is still my boy to this day.), but it was actually a Trojan Call, because Diego would be in that call with Lobo already. They're just adding me to the call. After a few occurrences of this, I stopped taking Lobo's calls. I began to phase out of the group chat too.

This is where a significant shift in our friend group happened. I know Diego and Lobo still talk, but not as much.

Diego is texting me here and there. I'm responding, but very little. I made the grand mistake of introducing him to my favorite game Warframe, mostly because I needed a real friend to help me do in game s**t that requires two people. One night, I suggest to him that we could farm some resources to help him catch up to speed, in which he replies with:
"Bet. Carry me muscle mommy" followed with a laughing emoji.

I immediately felt myself -- mad , because why would you say that. I shrugged it off by saying "Thats crazy." and not getting on that night. Five days later, he sends me a text saying:

"Muscle mommy around?"

Now you're just playing in my face to see if I'm gonna allow you to keep calling me this dumb s**t. I tell him to stop calling me that. He jokes saying that now that he knows that it bugs me, "we'll see". to which I respond: I'm fr tho, I don't like the mommy part. He says "word, I gotchu" and some other bullshit, but never apologized. He goes on to say

"actually kind of a hypocrite bc I hate daddy for my own reasons, [more bs here]"

dont care didnt ask.

From this point, I start to talk to him less and less.

At this point, I really just want to stop talking to him. With the nature of our job and the position he's in, I can't completely ignore this guy. There's a chance where I have no choice but to work with him directly.

I haven't been answering any of Diego's calls. or texts. At this point I have been actively avoiding him just because even hearing his voice makes me so uncomfortable, he makes my skin stand with pure anger. If I see him before he could see me, I would stop dead in my tracks, 180, and walk the other way.

Every time I log myself into Warframe, I place myself on Do Not Disturb. Now, I know it would be easy to just delete and block him off the game, but I'm deciding to keep him on just in case he manages to send me some wild s**t on there trying to message me, and I can screenshot it and use it as evidence.

But he's been following me there to talk too. Despite being able to use it as evidence, I refuse to have a sensitive topic over any form of messaging, especially over MY game that I invited you to. It's based on the principle of the conversation. Because if it truly held any weight and you know its a conversation that is meaningful, say it to my face. Anyway.. He would ask if he could borrow my time, or speak to me, but I would either throw myself on DND or just log off. I dont respond. (plus if I'm not talking to you or answering your calls, what makes you think I want to talk.)

I just DO NOT. want to speak with him. I truly believe