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kay, I figured on sifening more thoughts so maybe i can sleep more sound tonight/morning. I don't understand hwy people get their girlfriend pregnant, but won't get married. I'm sorry, but i think that is REALLY irresponsible. If you don't plan to spend the rest of your life with that person (even if you just go to the justice of the peace for christs sake! it doesn't have to be lavish!) then why have children with them? Essentially they're b*****d kids, and i'm sure they wouldn't take too kindly at being called that by older people (my age or older I'm referring to) or for the matter of not being raised with proper morals. If you're going to take on the responsibility, then a commitment responsibility shouldn't be that big of a deal. I mean, wether you get married or not, you can still go after the significant other for child support if they bail on you, and it's not children aren't a big responsibility.

I mean okay.. let's look at it with pro's and cons
Children
flesh and blood
create a special bond between parent and child
have family influence

Cons
require a lot of attention
require proper medical immunizations for health reasons
education
diapers
smelly
if you don't pay attention to your children, they will grow up without you, and possibly becoming something that is morally and legally dangerous

I'm sorry, but I take having kids VERY seriously. I think that if you can't make a commitment to someone to be with forever, why have kids? they're with you forever, wether you like it or not... even if you give up for adoption or have an abortion. That thought and essence is ALWAYS with you no matter what.

I rest my case. It makes sense to me, and if you don't like it, fine. that's your choice. I don't go stuffing it down people's throats. Hell... i barely even talk about it with my own husband.