• Hatred is a nasty emotion. It drives us to say harsh things against our peers, it propels us to do things we wouldn't normally do, and it prompts us to commit crimes we wouldn't commit under any other circumstances. I've noticed that a major cause of hatred stems from losing a loved one. The person in question is left angry at the thought of being completely helpless to do anything about the situation. After grieving, unless steps were taken to deal with the anger, obviously the vexation with the situation remains and festers like a wound. Whenever the subject is approached or remembered, that anger reemerges and is often taken out on nearby individuals. Obviously, nobody enjoys being 'hated on', so people retaliate, and what was at first being in the wrong place at the wrong time, turns into actual hatred for each other. As I mentioned before, this hatred originated from the loss of a loved one, usually someone significant, like a parent or sibling.

    However, this may be prevented in a couple of ways. Counseling, preferably soon after the incident, is always a good idea. Coming out and talking about what's going on in your head can be very insightful and relieving. Learning strategies to cope with your anger is also a necessity. When you accept the reality of the situation and come to terms with it, you aren't as angry and you can move on. You will never forget, and a part of you will always be unhappy that they're gone, but you will be able to continue living your life, and be successful. And isn't that what the deceased would want for you anyway?

    If you do not come to terms with your sorrow or anger, the consequences can be life-interfering. If you are constantly hating everyone, people aren't going to listen to you. Nobody likes to be yelled at, and you will shut people down, and they won't want to hear what you have to say. You won't get anywhere living like that, because nobody will care about your problems, or your opinions or what you want them to hear, because you were/ are yelling at them! Nobody is going to care what you have to say. Once you move past your anger and your hatred, and are able to come to terms with reality, then it will be easy for you to live your life the way you would like to live it. You will be able to create successful relationships, maintain a job with coworkers and be happier overall. But you have to realize that yelling and fighting and hating will not get you anywhere in this life. You will be alone because nobody is going to want to deal with you. The truth may be hard to accept, but, like losing a loved one, it is something that is best to give credence to.